Welcome to our second day! We’ve noticed what Agape is NOT. Let’s move along a bit further.
We can see now parts of ourselves we’ve found to be unacceptable - so much so that we cannot look at them. The first step towards changing anything is recognition. What’s not working? This journey is not so much about fixing what is wrong as seeing what is going on. We are not broken. We are in varying levels of pain and healing.
To move through these parts we’ll have to accept them without shame. This is not a pretty process or a simple one. None of us are exempt. How do we see with our hearts instead of our heads?
Compassion is key. Look at each other. Find not fault, but empathy. I am your sister. He is your brother. You know how we feel. You’ve been here on some level. We are not “wrong” or “strange” or “uncomfortable”; we are doing the best we can with what we have.
As your emotional trigger gets pushed, and you feel the rise of anger, pity, annoyance or opinion – STOP. You are looking right now at an aspect of yourself you’d rather not. This “other”, the one killing your otherwise sunny disposition, reminds you of you. This memory is familiar. It is uncomfortable. You’ve labeled it “not good”. You want it to stop. It reminds you of why you feel so bad sometimes.
You are not wrong or bad for feeling this way. You’ve been trained by a lifetime of habit. Very early on you learned specific responses; they are engrained in your brain. You feel familiarity around them. You may actually seek to create them if they are not already there. You label them your personality: “I am me. I like these types of things and people. I don’t like these types of things and people.”
You are speaking here as the little you. This is the you that is determined by circumstance. It is not the Great You. The Great You is self defined, embodied and present in every moment. The Great You greets every circumstance, welcomes and embraces it.
The Great You has preferences without opinion. He or she may like a certain color more than another. I was with a little guy this past weekend who is just learning his colors. So far he knows “yeyow”. His response to any “What color is this?” question is exactly the same: “yeyow”. To him, color is in a category of One. He is proud and happy to tell you his newly discovered truth.
Now next week he’ll learn another color and the separation begins. There will be “not yeyow” things he’ll have to decide about. What attributes he puts on these new colors will in some way decide how he sees the world. It is that way for all of us.
There are all sorts of “not yeyow” things we’ve already formed opinions about. These decisions feel right and comforting in a constantly shifting world. We can “hang our hat” on these thoughts. We’ve held on to them for such a long time – they must be true.
Yet the number of absolute truths can be held in one hand. The rest are momentary truths and depend on the subject, the speaker and the “time”.
To embody Agape asks that you see with your heart. The heart knows Truth. It can be trusted. You will recognize when your heart is seeing. It sees only love. It sees only Truth. Sort of like seeing all color as “yeyow”, your heart sees all of us as infinite expressions of life. Your heart sees you as exquisite. The heart sees One everywhere it looks.
The inner discomfort you feel when your buttons are pushed is not a signal of error or wrongdoing or imperfection. It is a message from your heart. It is whispering “I know the perfection that is you. Remember. This judgment you are forming is of the little you. I know the Great You. Remember.”
So we spend our formative years learning to categorize and label this 3D world. Then we wake up. We realize these names are just conventions. They are useful in conversations perhaps; not so much in forming beliefs. Names are separators. All is One.
The little you needed them to communicate and make sense of a very big world. The Great You does not. Observe them, yes; and then without opinion see with your heart.
What you’ll find is that reflected in each bit of life and every face is a bit of you. Look directly at yourself and accept each gift. For you are so much greater than the sum of your parts. You are so much more than a name, age, color, title, job, relationship, gender, religion or nationality. You are heaven itself, all wrapped up in a being that, for now, is human.
This Great You is multi-dimensional, the embodiment of Eternal Essence, and certainly bigger than any opinion. This Great You is an honor to know. Thank you for showing up. You are the One we’ve been waiting for.
See you tomorrow,