Forgetting Love is not possible.
March 21, 2015 by John Smallman
To experience Oneness is really not that difficult, it is just a question of waiting patiently and allowing it to happen. To allow means that you do not attempt to be in control of the moment, of the situation, you just accept what arises, and if nothing arises do not concern yourself about it because nothing arising is very, very close to Oneness. Oneness is a state of alert attention, a state in which you observe – your feelings, your thoughts, your environment, noises and smells, people or things passing – but do not engage with any of them so that you are always ready for and aware of the next thing, thought, feeling, or sensation that arises in this now moment, the only moment that has real meaning.
It is a very peaceful state in which you are simply present, nothing more, and it is extremely healing because doubts and anxieties do not assail you when you relax into that peaceful state of perfect contentment, needing nothing. Do not be discouraged by the fact that nothing appears to happen because “what happens” is of the illusion, it is a distraction from being. Oneness is just being, and being is to be open to creation, to be open to Love, because your heart then expands and fills and replenishes itself from that infinite loving space that is all that exists.
Don’t judge yourself, and do forgive yourself for all the judgments you have ever made. When you are forgiven you know that you are free, but only you can forgive yourself. Another’s forgiveness can be pleasing, satisfying, but the only real forgiveness is your own to yourself. And if you have not forgiven yourself you cannot truly forgive anyone else. There is always a “holding on to” the offense or hurt that you are attempting to forgive. You do not forget it, you just store it away to refer to later in case another offense or hurt occurs, and you call this experience, or even wisdom!
Love is always unconditionally accepting because It has nothing to forgive. If you hold on to a hurt or a grievance, then resentment grows and you shut out Love, and you can only do that within the illusion because outside the illusion, which is tiny, there is only Love. Anything that is in any way out of harmony with Love is unreal, it does not and cannot exist except within the unreal state that is the illusion.
To not be experiencing Love constantly means that you are immersed in the illusion. The occasions of Love it seems that you experience within it are but brief forays out of it. The illusion is like a pond in which you are immersed far beneath its surface and holding your breath, and from which you emerge for brief moments to breathe in the Love on which your very existence depends. Love is infinitely powerful, so a deep breath from Its endless abundance allows you to immerse yourself in the pond of the illusion for long periods of time. And when you do, because it is the human condition, it is very easy either to forget abcout love – the weak faint image of real Love that is all that you can experience as a human – or to convince yourself that you do not need it because it really only complicates life . . . until the next time you need to take a breath!
Forgetting Love, which is burying or denying your need for It, and focusing on living, on getting on with your life, is not possible! It is the life force, life itself as you live it as a human, and therefore you are always conscious of it, even if you are not focusing your attention there. When It ceases or severely weakens, then you notice! Those of you who have had NDEs (near death experiences) remain intensely aware of life, of Love, when you return to your human bodies and to all the limitations they appear to impose upon you.