When human it is only when you are willing to stand alone that you will ever truly unconditionally love another. As long as you need someone such that you cannot let them go, such that you could not have them leave you even if they wanted to, then you do not unconditionally love. To love is to free.
To love someone unconditionally is to wish them to be free. It is to wish them the experience of ‘whatever they wish to experience’. When you are allowing this profound feeling inside yourself and you meet someone willing to love you in that way (where you love each other to be free), then this is the moment of connection and intimacy where you feel the infinite potential of joy to be shared.
When human you will tend to feel there are such limits. Intimacy is a powerful route to the realization that your freedom is only limited by your imagination and your will to experience it outwardly. It is to realize the freedom to just be yourself and to let go of the games and drama that is so often played in society. Only when you personally let those games go will you meet the people that don’t play those games. You have to step out of the fears / ruts / compromises / imprints and say I am willing to stand alone. When you are willing to stand alone in who you are then you are stood in the realization of sovereignty, and trust me when I tell you that is where you want to be my friend - not to imply an absolute truth, but because otherwise you would not be here reading these words.
A foundation in sovereignty is one of the greatest qualities to look for in a lover if you wish to meet in this intimacy of which I speak. For when two beings meet in love and sovereignty there is the greatest potential for union, creation and discovery. It is those that are willing to stand alone that have the greatest meetings within love. When two sovereign beings come together, even if they are still carrying wounds, if they have come to unconditional love and the desire for freedom, then there is an opportunity to take one of the greatest of journeys that human reality has to offer.
The basis of this journey into intimacy is one of flow and communication. Having lived different lives, each person comes to a relationship with a different framework through which they interpret the world. Intimacy is a decision to connect across those frameworks to the point where the frameworks fall away and you truly see each other. This can only be done through the vulnerability of communication and the sharing this inner self. How willing are you to open your entire inner world to another? You answer to this question is the same as the answer to ... How willing are you to experience the unknown?